Stan Fields: Miss Rhode Island, please describe your idea of a perfect date.
Cheryl “Rhode Island”: That’s a tough one. I’d have to say April 25th. Because it’s not too hot, not too cold, all you need is a light jacket.
Perfect date. Perfect day. Your day.
What would make my day? Another day like my 50th birthday.
What I wanted most that day was to spend time with people I love. So we started the day taking our kids to the Mt. Timpanogos Temple (which was the only one open three days before Christmas) to do baptisms. Having my entire family in the temple together would be top on my list for any day. It is indeed heaven on earth. It was on that day, and my deepest hope is that it will be again someday.
Also on that day a bunch of my friends and family got together at a party I organized myself (because if you want something, you have to be willing to make it happen). Having so many people I love gathered together was perfect.
My friend Lindsey of Cafe Johnsonia made me not one, but two absolutely perfect birthday cakes. Having a homemade birthday cake was a dream come true that day but continues to be a dream come true since Emily has joined our family, as she makes me delicious homemade vanilla cakes* on my birthdays.
My friend Scott Shepard brought part of his band Book on Tape Worm to play for my party. Good live music always makes my day. And the generosity shown by taking time out to come, to haul and set up instruments and sound, and to play the perfect set–including my favorites and also one with the lyrics “growing old is the slowest form of time travel” was one of the best gifts.
My friend Corrie made me a quilt. When someone makes a quilt for a quilter, it is a perfect gift.
Speaking of quilts, another day I would consider “my day” would be a rainy day where I was not at work (most people want to skip work on a sunny day, I want to be home when it rains). The temperature would be moderate enough I could have the window open. Such a day would need to be partly productive–providing a chance to put things in order at home is perfect on a rainy day–but also partly relaxing. After getting stuff done I would want to curl up on the sofa, wrapped up in a cozy quilt, cozied up to a good book.
Aside from good people, good music, good food, and a good book, what else would make my day? Kindness, love, and laughter.
[Day 109 of Ann Dee Ellis’ 8-Minute Memoir.]